It’s Not About You

by Dr. Regina Campbell

Notaboutme“Happiness is spiritual, born of truth and love. It is unselfish; therefore it cannot exist alone, but requires all mankind to share it.”  Mary Baker Eddy

Today many are consumed with their personal agenda. As a society we are taught to look out for self first and that we are to obtain our wealth for our own personal gain and satisfaction. On the contrary I believe life is about being a person of selflessness and the joy of sharing. I encourage you to look for ways to do unselfish acts, do something to help someone else. Life is not all about you and your world, but it’s about doing good for others and without expecting anything in return.  What I am saying is don’t be a selfish person focusing only on your needs. Learn to share and give to others. I look for ways I can help others as I find great joy in putting others’ needs before my own. An unselfish person wants to see others happy; an unselfish person is willing to sacrifice their time to assist a friend.

If you are experiencing life’s challenges find and focus your energy on helping others. For example provide assistance at a shelter by volunteering as you immerse in helping another you will soon discover your life is not as bad as you think. You will also receive inner healing from your hurt and a greater sense of purpose. I have spent time with troubled teens, visited the elderly in an assistance living facility and I’ve visited and mailed an encouraging card to the sick. Each time I stopped to help someone my heart is overwhelmed with immense joy and satisfaction.

Life is not about “me, myself and I” but about how you can find a higher level of self-actualization in that of being unselfish. Many people get married for selfish reasons. They look to the marriage to obtain personal desires that has nothing to do with their spouse. Many people view their friendships from that perspective as well; it’s all about them and what they can get. Any relationship should be beneficial for both individuals. Relationships are about reciprocity not receiving only for the benefit of self. I challenge you to look within and make an honest assessment do you tend to focus more on you and your desires, if so I offer you these pearls of wisdom, “one who is only consumed with his/her affairs has robbed him/her self of the jewel of true inner joy.” Inner joy is founded upon the principle of selflessness.