by Dr. Regina Campbell
“Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light.” Helen Keller
“The greatest gift of life is friendship, and I have received it.” Hubert H. Humphrey
A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
As I grow older I find myself appreciating the power of friendships. First to be married and have your spouse as your best friend is amazing. I am fortunate to have a great husband, someone with whom I can truly let my guard down. He listens attentively as I express my deepest disappointments or he celebrates with me when I experience success. That’s truly a friend. Friendship is God ordained and I believe God created mankind with a need for socialization and human experiences.
The beauty of friendship is to have someone share life events as you experience them. A good friend is there when things are great and when things are not so great. Everyone needs a good friend or two. You should have someone that understands you and not focus on judging your shortcomings. Yes we need friends to point out areas in our life that we can eliminate or modify but it has to be done in a loving and caring manner. Friends are there when you fall as you’ll need someone to encourage and pick you up.
In the words of Bishop Van Moody, “a person that comes in your life is either a pall bearer or armor bearer.” A pall bearer is someone that comes in your life and drains you and brings you down. On the other hand an armor bearer is someone that has been assigned to your life to assist you with getting to your destiny. Also remember the law of attraction in that you attract the people in your life that have like values and minds. You attract who and what you are and if someone is in your life that opposes your values and mindset then I suggest you closely examine that relationship.
Finally friendship is about being a friendly person. No one wants to be around someone who is not friendly and who possesses a bad attitude. As you spend time with a friend you pick up each others mannerisms and colloquialisms you don’t want to pick up mannerisms that are contrary to your way of speaking or thinking. Thus learn to be a person that brings good and joy to your friends and you’ll be considered a friend for life. Remember your friends have a purpose in your life and you need to know that purpose. Every friend you have is for a different reason thus there is no need to compare one friend to another. Most importantly, friendship is from God and we are to enjoy having mutually respectful relationships that brings us joy.