by Dr. Regina Campbell
Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.
“Look forward with hope not backwards with regret.” ~Unknown
Many of allow our past losses, hurts, mistakes and disappointments paralyze us to the point that we do not move forward with hope. It is true that we can experience such disappointments, sadness and losses that at it is easily said “move ahead” than actually it is to move ahead. I want to encourage you that life is full of ups and downs but it’s imperative that you learn to look forward with an attitude of joy, hope and expectations for a brighter day. You may ask how can, I truly move ahead? One way is to exercise forgiveness. You may have to forgive someone that have hurt you or you may have to forgive yourself. Forgiveness frees you from harboring acrimony and bitterness. When you get entrenched in bitterness it can negatively impact your health. People don’t realize that un-forgiveness is like a disease that can eat at the very core of your spirit and soul. Second learn from your mistakes and don’t hold yourself hostage for life. When you make a mistake be mature enough to own it and take inventory of how and why you made that decision but then get on with your life. Become wiser because you’ve learned from an incorrect decision. A bad decision doesn’t define you but it can propel you to do things differently. Thirdly in order to look forward it is the ability to keep moving regardless of the hurt you may be feeling or experiencing. Life will present a multitude of challenges and disappointments but don’t quit or give up. Fourth learn to trust again in order to move ahead. People so often allow past hurts to hinder future opportunities. Too often the hurt overshadows futuristic possibilities and innumerable blessings that lies ahead. Fifth is to accept the reality of your situation. Accepting the reality of your situation is accepting God’s sovereign will for your life. You may find yourself divorce when you had no intentions of every being divorce or you may experience a loss of a loved one that was unexpected. Yet in any case when you experience something that was out of your control then it’s when you must surrender to the will of God. Seeking His strength, grace and power to accept and be healed so you can move ahead. I strongly encourage you not to allow your past to hinder and hurt your present and future dreams, hopes and opportunities. It’s not what happened in the past that determines your future it’s how you use your past to help you in the future. Finally I encourage you to look at what you have remaining not at what you have loss and count your blessings.