by Dr. Regina Campbell
“Use your words to edify and build up and not to destroy and tear down.” by Dr. Regina Campbell
“Is it kind, is it true, is it necessary.” by Wee Mama
“Sticks and stones may break your bones but words never hurt…” In reading this quote I don’t concur with it as words do hurt and it does matter what is stated. Words are powerful. It can propel one into its destiny or deplete one of its dreams thus use words that edify people. It doesn’t mean that you should not tell someone the truth that may be difficult for the person to accept. It’s all about how you say it and not what you say. Words can have a lasting impact on a person’s life because words take root within the abyss of a person’s internal spirit which makes it difficult to eradicate from. The reason words have a lasting impact is because as people we have a tendency to want to be appreciated and loved. When someone speaks detrimental words that hurt us then we begin to believe what was stated. The lasting imprints from words are truly amazing as I can still remember what people have said to me years ago good, bad or indifferent.
Whenever you have opportunities try to edify a person by telling that person how much you appreciate them and how proud you are of them. Especially with your kids because kids need to be built up to believe in themselves despite their frailties likewise adults are no different in that you desire to be appreciated and loved. The best way is find the good things and those things you like about others and focus on those attributes and compliment on those positive attributes. If you focus on a person’s short comings then it compiles that person’s frustration and disappointment in themselves as people are their worst critics.
Finally you don’t always have to speak the truth. For example I had receive information about a person and I chose to not reveal the information to the other person for the purpose of making certain that the two individuals I was dealing with didn’t have any harsh feelings between each other. Therefore only reveal when it will be helpful or brings about peace just because it’s true doesn’t mean it needs repeating.